My departure from the 9-5 cubicle world was one of the best things I’ve done for myself. I love managing my own schedule and being free. But with this independence comes limited human-to-human contact. Sometimes I miss having conversations outside my own head; and yes, I even miss that nonsensical water cooler chatter.

Nowadays, I’ll be on line at the drug store and will turn to someone behind or in front of me and inappropriately start in on them: “Hi!  What’s your name? Did you catch ‘The Bachelorette’ last night?”

Man, am I sick of getting strange looks.

My friend Vicki Salemi is in a similar boat, so we meet at times to connect and chit chat. Vicki is a fellow freelancer who just published the book, Big Career in the Big City–Land a Job and Get a Life in NY.

It’s amazing how many friends I know are getting their books published and accomplishing their goals in spite of what everyone says about this economy and the “dying publishing industry.”

When you focus on your own positive reality and believe something is possible, life delivers.

Sure it sounds hokey, but there’s a recipe to life that goes in this order: Ask, believe, allow, and receive. Check it out:

• Ask For It How many of us don’t feel entitled to ask for what we really want? Good old Jesus said it best: “Ask and ye shall receive.” Whether you follow the dude or not, there is a lot of truth in that statement. If you want something, you’ve gotta ask for it, plain and simple.

• Believe It’s Possible Do you really, truly, undeniably believe you are going to get what you want out of life? How many girlfriends do you know who deep down don’t believe they will find their dream guy in this city? Or, how many unemployed friends walk around with their heads down feeling like there aren’t any job opportunities available? If you don’t believe it can happen, it won’t.

• Allow Pay attention to all the hidden opportunities coming your way, and allow them in. Have a few offers for blind dates and random business lunch invites? Don’t turn them down. Even if you think the guy or job isn’t right for you, go! Every opportunity will lead you to the next step in your awesome life’s journey.

• Receive If you don’t think this step is important, keep an eye on a little kid the next time someone hands over a birthday present. Do they just sit there looking at it and never take it? No way. They rip it open! Sit back and take it all in, Doll. After all, you’ve earned it!

Now, about that book of my friend’s. Vicki encourages women and gives them tools to create fulfilling, dynamic lives in the big city.

Best part is, she’s taking her own advice and living her dream—even if she gets one-bedroom apartment fever every now and then. I’m psyched she’s around to encourage me to keep going for it. That’s nice to know—especially when my new friends in checkout lines just look at me like I’m out of this world.

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