Thursday, February 25th, 2010
My best friend from high school got engaged a few weeks ago. This was no easy feat.
Last year she was still in an on-and-off again relationship lasting since college. She felt stuck and confused. I remember sitting down with her over espressos on the Lower East Side and bluntly telling her to close this chapter of her life so something new can open. It wasn’t the first time I’d lectured her like this.
But this time, she listened.
My friend finally ended her rocky relationship and two months later met her future partner at a friend’s wedding. Without her being willing to end her painful past, I’m convinced she never would have met this new guy.
I don’t want to take credit for this engagement. Okay, yeah, I do. A special thank-you from the rabbi at the ceremony (and a guaranteed heaven admittance) would suffice.
But really, this is the case with most things in life. One door closes, another opens. Someone dies, a baby is born (not to put any pressure on the couple, though Ilana really is a sweet name).
I always hear people say that if they close a certain door, they won’t find anything better. But the world is filled with endless possibilities waiting to be let in.
What are some doors you need to close in your life in order to let new possibilities in? Whether with work, love or other areas of your life, what are you holding on to and what might be keeping your celebrations away?
February 26th, 2010 at 10:26 am
Perfect timing, Ilana. I needed to be reminded of that adage. It is just so easy to lose sight when your heart (or mind) is not letting go.