I was not a happy camper.
I’d trekked through the snow to Equinox last week for a spin class, only to discover a huge line. I waited impatiently to sign the “wait” list, all the while aware of the Jewish American Princess from Queens rising up in my belly. Next thing I knew, I was giving attitude to the poor girl at the front desk.
I looked down mid-tude and noticed I had on galoshes. I’d forgotten my sneakers all together.
Spin class no longer meant to be, I took two back-to-back yoga classes. They were divine. And so it was: My body and mind needed those yoga classes much more than they needed spinning.
I apologized to the girl at the front desk on my way out, and silently vowed to never again let that inner Queens girl cut in line.
The moral? We get exactly what we need in life. (Yes, The Rolling Stones had it right all along.) So stop fighting every little thing you perceive as “going wrong,” and start going with the flow. If you take every turn and step-down presented, I promise you’ll get to exactly where you need to be.
5 Comments for Stop the Fight
John | February 17, 2010 at 8:34 am
Author comment by admin | February 17, 2010 at 10:15 pm
Hi John,
I agree. There is no such thing as a coincidence or accident.
Thanks for writing and visit again soon!
Ilana
Steve | February 22, 2010 at 3:24 pm
I have to point out that going with your JAPfQ WAS also an aspect of going with the flow (you took an opportunity to vent) but more importantly you owned what you did and you admitted you have an aspect of your character you wish to change.
“There is no such thing as a coincidence or accident.” – This statement imbues the world we live in with a comforting sense of interconnectivity but it doesn’t allow for imperfection and there’s obviously plenty around and within us. It hints that if there is a pattern, there must be control, yet as we see in so many systems and events around us, control is an illusion.
What I would like an answer to is why are so many folks not satisfied with merely existing? If we really knew exactly how the planet was created and life evolved would it change how we treat any of our fellow man today? If the world was a truly causal, directed, place and it was all leading up to something that happened way in the future (42?) what relevance would that really have to our infinitesimally short lives? Granted, no one wants to think there life has no meaning, but isn’t even the belief that we are little cogs in a big machine an egotistical conceit?
Additionally trying to find meaning in everything can be a very stressful endeavor with no reward. How would you ever know you have complete knowledge of all the factors involved? You had galoshes on but you wanted spinning => wearing galoshes means, on some level, you didn’t want to spin. But then, why wouldn’t you have manifested some reason to get off the line or even not go at all? Causality can be a very elusive beast, more so when it’s not present. It is what it is. I think you just plumb forgot your boots because you are imperfect. Without end. Is that really so awful?
Author comment by admin | February 22, 2010 at 5:18 pm
I think there is lots of imperfection. Not everything is controlled. I think it’s important to realize you don’t have all the answers, and no you can’t find meaning in everything. Sitting back and just saying I DON’T KNOW is part of living. It allows you to go with the flow and CHILL the freak out.
But I still think there are lessons in every moment. OK sometimes, maybe there aren’t — you’re right. But in this moment, if a lesson helps me be a better person and NOT JAP out at the lady, then I’m all for exploring that! But I hear your pointsss!
youngie | April 17, 2010 at 6:01 pm
I am not going to be original this time, so all I am going to say that your blog rocks, sad that I don’t have such writing skill.
Good example. Going with the flow means to flow with spirit, or to flow with universal energy. There is no such thing as an accident, as all events have a catalyzing impetus of directed energy, such as you forgetting your shoes. On another level, (subconscious or super-conscious), your shoes were purposefully left behind so force a change in your conscious intentions. Higher self will sometimes create very dramatic events if we refuse to ever find our “universal flow”.
Blessings,
John